The 5 Keys To A Successful Relationship
TV programming, movies, novels and the society, in general, has programmed people to seek the fairytale happily-ever-after ending in their story. Everybody wants to be in a happy and fulfilling relationship with their dream partner but is this really possible. With divorce rates at an all-time high and all the stories we hear on a daily basis about couples splitting up or suffering in abusive relationships, it is difficult to imagine that true love exists. However, it exists since there are many happy couples out there who seem to have gotten everything right from the start. What exactly is it that makes a successful relationship? This is an age-old question with an elusive answer. People have their own ideas, some of which are similar while others are completely different. Below are the 5 keys to a successful relationship that most people seem to agree on:
This appears to be the bread and butter of any relationship. This is closely related to respect. When you and your partner respect each other, you can build a strong bond due to the trust you will have for one another. If you respect your partner, cheating on them or lying to them would never come to mind, and that is how trust is built. If you have trust in your relationship, you can be assured of enjoying a fulfilling relationship that is free of insecurities and uncertainties for a long time. Happy couples normally trust each other. It is safe to say that trust is the glue that holds relationships together. When trust is compromised, the countdown begins for the dissolution of a marriage or breakup of a relationship.
When you met your partner, the first thing you did was communicate either verbally or through gestures and facial expressions. If you had not communicated with your partner at that time, you would not be in a relationship with them. Similarly, if you stop communicating with your spouse, you may find yourself alone once again. Communicating with your spouse throughout the day through phone calls or text is crucial. However, you also need to have face to face talks at home or on a date where you can discuss important issues you’re both facing in your lives, whether socially or professionally. To effectively communicate your feelings and thoughts, you both need to be frank and open. You also need to have a listening ear and learn how to respond accordingly. Efficient communication is what will sustain your relationship in the long run, so you better learn how to listen and communicate effectively.
Everyone has goals and timelines for meeting their goals. Since things do not always go according to plan due to the variables involved, patience is an important quality. If your partner has been waiting to get a large project, promotion or a better job before proposing, you should be ready to wait, especially if you think they are the one. While you may want to get married soon, you should be willing to wait. This type of patience will encourage your partner and give them the drive to pursue their goals. Any sort of pressure, on the other hand, will lead to a dysfunctional relationship due to stress at work as well as at home.
People come from different backgrounds. Some were raised in foster homes while others were adopted by a family. There are also those who were lucky enough to be raised in amazing families. Some people have also gone through some sort of traumatic event in their life. That said, people also have different opinions on a variety of topics as well as values they uphold in their everyday life. If you would like to have a great relationship, you need to understand where your partner comes from as well as boundaries you should never cross. This will help the two of you to build a strong relationship.
5. Learn to Compromise
There is a theory that in every relationship, there is a reacher and a settler, or an alpha and a beta. In this school of thought, the settler or alpha always gets the final say in everything, while the reacher or beta has to compromise all the time. Well, this is not healthy in a relationship. We live in the 21st century, where everyone has an opinion that should be respected. If you ever find yourself in a disagreement with your spouse, one of you should be willing to compromise to end the argument. However, it should not always be the same person who has to compromise as this would not be healthy in the relationship.